A Candy Heir UPDATE

My June 2017 blog entitled A Candy Heir, the NHL and Next-Gen Passion, was based on a NY Times article about Nello Ferrara, heir to the Ferrara Candy Company (think Red Hots and Lemonheads among others). A few weeks after I posted the blog, I got an email from Nello himself. He came across the blog and it resonated with him; he asked if I’d like to call him and chat.

We had a great conversation about family business and hockey (two serious interests of mine) and life in general. I knew in April 2018 I’d be attending the Psychodynamics of Family Business (PDFB) Annual Retreat and I wanted to present but was not sure what I’d propose at that point. I suggested to Nello that I might interview him as a breakout session. He agreed and we set another call to really dig into his family business story in depth.

The story was amazing. The business started when Nello’s great-grandfather, Salvatore, opened a small bakery three generations earlier (1908) and hired family members along the way. They put small candies on some of the cakes and pastries as a garnish. It turned out the garnish candies became super popular and the family saw the opportunity and jumped on it; they began focusing on the candies themselves and over time became an American candy-making powerhouse.

Of course, as with any family business – especially when there is tremendous financial success – relationships can become strained and challenges between family members can take their toll. As wealth is created and grows, family members don’t always agree on who should take on leadership roles, how the wealth should be distributed, how ownership is transferred and to whom, and whether or not to sell the company and cash out. Even family members not involved directly in the business are affected by estate plans and access to money (or money withheld).

When Nello presented to PDFB, he did so with an openness and rawness that took us all by surprise. He laid it all out – good and bad – with the hope of helping all the advisors to families in the room learn something that would help them serve their family business clients a bit better. He requested, and the group of 18 consultants committed to, complete confidentiality so that he could be free to share the whole saga; this blog you’re reading was approved by Nello. The attendees were riveted.

There were several painful elements to the history of Ferrara Candy Company and Nello’s experience. Some of the lessons resonate with things I’ve been preaching for years:

  • When families achieve financial/business success attention must be paid to living by core family values.
  • The interplay of family and business must be managed as a project of its own.
  • Raising children in the context of significant wealth has both opportunities and pitfalls. If serious attention is not paid to raising children in ways that encourage character, motivation and perseverance, the wealth can be their downfall.

My thanks to Nello! All the PDFB members got a tremendous amount out of learning his story and I hope that sharing it furthered his journey as well.

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Black Males, Wealth Depreciation & Racism

I was born in 1966 to a mom who would have been a hippie or academic if she did not get married at 18 and start having kids so early.  My mom was passionate about her fight against oppression in all forms and impressed upon my sisters and me the importance of social equity for all regardless of race. The institution of slavery and its antithesis embodied in the Civil Rights movement, made it easy for a young kid like me to see the difference between social unfairness and social fairness. The distinction was made clearer when my mom read two books with me were about Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and Jackie Robinson. I could not understand why people could be so awful to other people. Separate bathrooms and water fountains because of skin color? Even as a kid, this seemed crazy, outrageous. Why would someone hate someone else simply because of their skin color? Baseball fans yelling the “n-word” at Jackie Robinson, the first Black player in the big leagues, disturbed me then and still does now.

A recent NY Times article based on research at Stanford, Harvard, and Census Bureau data, describes the effects of racism on Black boys; even those who grow up in wealthy families are more likely to end up poor than to remain at the level of wealth in which they were raised. The same is not true for Black girls. “Even when children grow up next to each other with parents who earn similar incomes, black [sic] boys fare worse than white boys in 99 percent of America…Black men raised in the top 1 percent — by millionaires — were as likely to be incarcerated as white men raised in households earning about $36,000.”

This article and other research referred to in it finds that it is not class that explains this dynamic (as frequently thought to be the case) but pervasive, structural racism and its particularly strong effects on Black males.  The Times article further points out that “boys, across races, are more sensitive than girls to disadvantages like growing up in poverty or facing discrimination. While black [sic] women also face negative effects of racism, black [sic] men often experience racial discrimination differently. As early as preschool, they are more likely to be disciplined in school. They are pulled over or detained and searched by police officers more often.”

The article is well worth a read. One area of my consulting work with wealthy families focuses on educating and coaching parents about raising children in a wealth context. Unfortunately, however, I am not coming across Black families of wealth in my practice and even within the related organizations to which I belong, there are rarely Black professionals. This does not mean they do not exist, but it has not been my experience to meet them despite my work across the country.

As a result, I see a great opportunity and consequential social benefit in developing communities for Black families of wealth, and Black professionals that are focused on facilitating the perpetuation of their success (in financial and other realms) and connecting these families and professionals to opportunities for mentorship and support for impoverished Black communities. If you know of organizations along these lines – please get in touch with me and share what you know. If you’d like to make an impact on this issue, let’s put our heads together.

I did Google around looking for organizations for “Black family wealth” and “Black wealth advisors”. What tended to come up were articles about the drastic nature of wealth disparity and how difficult and challenging it is to be a Black professional.

Disheartening.

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Parenting as Governance

Governance can be intimidating to business families and legacy wealth families who may not have operating businesses any longer but share and manage complex assets. This is especially true if they have not educated themselves about good governance and committed themselves to it. Governance is crucial for achieving both long term business/financial success and family harmony.

Simply put, governance is coming together and getting clear about how decisions will be made, who will be involved with making decisions and in the business of the family generally, how information will be shared and overall setting and managing of expectations. I’m referring specifically to governance that relates to the interplay of family and shared assets rather than of a business alone.

In my view, parenting – and in particular parenting that takes into account the context of a family’s business and financial success – is the earliest and most powerful foundation of good governance. When it is missing, the consequences are glaring.

Recently I worked with an immigrant who came to the U.S. as a young child, experienced harsh poverty and worked incredibly hard to create a business empire. He wanted to make life easier for his son and daughter: he asked very little of them, bought them everything they wanted and more, took them into the business and paid them much more than market value, (they never would have earned positions like these on their own) and he did little to train them. His heart was in the right place, but he developed entitled children with minimal skills. He did much the same with his grandkids by buying them expensive cars as soon as they got their licenses and put them all through private K-12 and college and gave them no-show jobs with his companies. His children were making bad deals and losing the company millions, and the grandkids were floundering, unemployed and living off their no-show job income.

The founder was in tears. I helped him to see that while he acted out of love, he had made life too easy for the rising generations. HE had a hunger based in surviving while they had wanted for nothing and little was expected of them.

Some may see it as a leap to connect parenting a young child to family governance.  But in my experience, I frequently see tough situations in the world of enterprising families that could have been avoided with more enlightened and thoughtful parenting beginning at the earliest years.

It is necessary that any child, regardless of family wealth or poverty, be held to high expectations, to work for what they get, to contribute to the family/household for no money (at least some of the time), to endure and grow from frustration and failure, to earn money and pay for a least some of the things they want.

I also see wonderful, close families who pull together, pitch in, and work very hard. They earn their way, respect all the employees who helped the family create their success and give back to their communities and the world with a sense of gratitude and humility. In these families, parents were thoughtful about most or all of the essential developmental tasks I describe above from the earliest years of childhood.

The distinction between the child of wealth and those of modest means or even poverty is that the former context has the potential to take the struggle, frustration and hardship out of life. And these are exactly the things necessary to get “governance” on the right track.

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NY Times Quote

I’m thankful to Paul Sullivan of the NY Times for taking interest in my work and interviewing me for his December 29th Wealth Matters column, “Keeping the Family Tree Alive.”

I’ve been fortunate in my career to have worked with a wide range of interesting families from very poor and even homeless, to extremely wealthy. One of my favorite questions for wealthy families struggling with a particular challenge is, “How would this be different if you were poor?” That question goes to the heart of big decisions by removing money from the equation for a moment, leaving only family relationships and fundamental life values to be considered.

Money is powerful and has the potential for both positive and negative effects on those who have it. I work with families that have accumulated significant wealth and who want the money/wealth to serve the family in healthy and productive ways.

In my experience, those families who put family first in their thinking tend to achieve long-term harmony and productive, motivated and satisfied family members.

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Happy Holidays – Make an Impact!

Friends and Colleagues –

Happy Holidays and Wishing You a Great New Year!!!

A donation has been made to the Trenton Area Soup Kitchen (T.A.S.K.) in lieu of cards or gifts to our friends and colleagues. I’m coming up on my 10th year of volunteering at T.A.S.K. and it continues to be inspiring and energizing.

The Patrons struggle to get by in a city bereft of opportunity and overwhelmed by violence, drugs, and desperation. Consistently, I am impressed by the strong ties that bind the Patrons together. Over these 10 years they have slowly let me into their world and embraced me as a member of their community. I am all the better for it.

Wishing you an inspired and energized 2018 – make an impact!

Best –

Jeff

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Money Ain’t Everything

Research shows higher childhood socioeconomic status (SES) tends to be associated with positive physical health later in life. There is even some research that many believe demonstrates that high SES (i.e., significant wealth and high social class) can take the place of warm parent-child bonds.  If correct, this means that even without close, healthy parent-child relationships, a high SES will lead to positive health later in life.

However, research done last year by Matthew A. Andersson at Baylor University, shows that poor-quality parent-child relationships during childhood can negate the positive effects of high SES in terms of health over the lifespan.

Basically, “money ain’t everything” –  or stated another way, high-quality parent-child bonds are extremely important, and this supports the work I’ve been doing with parents in multigenerational wealthy families.

Across the board my clients who are parents want to ensure that the advantages of wealth do not stifle their children and lead to a lack of motivation and selfishness. This is a stereotype of family wealth, for sure, and one that exists too often. Starting early with these parents – ideally beginning to think through the issues, challenges and opportunities before they have children – is important.  Focusing on the quality of parent-child relationships is the best leverage against the potential negative effects of wealth.  Families can harness both the potential of high SES AND healthy relationships; the result is close families and mature, selfless stewards.

Last week I presented a workshop on “Raising Family Business Children” for NYCFEC (New York City Family Enterprise Center). Attendees had kids ranging in age from a year or two up through early 20’s and were active and enlightened participants, though I was particularly encouraged by the participation of parents mid-pregnancy and who were still planning for their first child in the future.

A solid emotional/relational foundation is the most powerful first step in raising family business children, stewards of generational wealth, and, honestly, everyone else.

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